Embracing the Gothic: A Journey to Personal Growth and Success

Find your way to increased confidence by expressing yourself authentically, regardless of societal expectations

Alicia Domínguez


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A student of mine asked me once how I knew I was Gothic.

I was a bit struck by the question because I have always been a very colourful person with a passion for dark stories, ghosties, secrets, and the intertwinings of the mind. The only obvious giveaways have always been my choice of jewellery and music. However, I never took my Gothicness, outside the mental space, although aesthetically I have a predilection for Victorian Gothic clothing, as you can see in the following picture.

This is me in my Animus outfit — Picture by the author

Having to describe my Gothicness to him felt almost like undressing my soul and my deeper secrets in front of a stranger.

The only thing I could say was: “Because I know.”

The lack of elaboration meant that I still had to put words into all those internal sensations and images. And at that point, I realised that I had a lot of work to do.

He was obviously expecting a different type of answer. A list of characteristics, perhaps. Maybe a kind of religiousness in my daily routines. Maybe he thought I slept in a coffin and hid from the sunlight, although I am not too good in the Spanish summer heat, my daily habits are nothing out of the ordinary.

What I couldn’t explain to him at that time was that, like for some of us, the allure of the Gothic transcends dark aesthetics or any rituals that may be connected with the idea of Gothicness. For me, the Gothic is the only mode or genre that opens up a portal to self-discovery and empowerment. As it has been doing over the years, it has led me to explore the depths of my own nature and this has become a pathway to unforeseen greatness in recent years.

In this article, I want to talk about why embracing the Gothic can become a journey to your personal growth and success and how you too can find your way to increased confidence in expressing yourself authentically and making…



Alicia Domínguez

English philologist/ Independent researcher/ Writer/ Self-Development Mentor through the Gothic-Jungian lens